This is the second column in the #InclusieDoen series. We want to move away from merely talking about inclusion in organizations and instead focus on practical actions. Today’s column explores how giving compliments more often can help you, others, and your team! Interested in doing more #InclusieDoen? We’re here to help. Over the coming weeks, we’ll actively support you in developing more inclusive habits. With short videos and reminders via WhatsApp, you’ll receive tips and guidance. And during this initial phase, it’s completely free! You can find all columns here.
This week, I received a very kind and detailed email following a training session with a new client. The client specifically pointed out what they appreciated about the workshop from the day before. Honestly, I already knew the training had gone exceptionally well, but I was still surprised at how happy the email made me. Of course, I know from research that giving compliments works, but experiencing it firsthand remains something special.
Compliments aren’t just friendly words; they truly have an impact. Did you know that in organizations where employees and managers value one another, people are 35% more energized to achieve results? Moreover, employees in such environments are 15 times more likely to become high performers.
Neuroscientific research even shows that compliments are processed in the brain in the same way as financial rewards. They activate the reward system, evoke positive emotions, boost self-confidence, and foster stronger connections between people.
Yet many people feel insecure about giving compliments. They worry about whether they’re expressing them correctly. Research also shows they often underestimate how much a compliment will positively affect the recipient.
The key to giving a good compliment is sincerity and warmth. Choose something specific, no matter how small, that you genuinely appreciate. Don’t overthink it, as the moment to truly make someone feel good can pass quickly.
Make the compliment as personal as possible (“Your creativity makes this presentation truly unique” instead of “Good presentation”). Support your words with non-verbal cues like a smile and eye contact. Also, try to learn how the recipient prefers to receive compliments. Some appreciate public recognition, while others prefer compliments in private.
Just like nourishment, people have a constant need to feel seen and appreciated. Train yourself to give compliments more frequently and make it a habit.
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Sources:
- “A Simple Compliment Can Make a Big Difference,” Erica Boothby, Xuan Zhao, and Vanessa Bohns, HBR, 2021
- Gartner 2023 Building an Organization of Great Managers Survey