by Esther Mollema
On request of one of our clients, Esther developed an efficient and fun online training for all employees on Unconscious prejudice. Employees can complete this 45-60 minute training at their own pace, at any time, any place. So also on the train or in the backyard. We are also happy to make this training for your organisation. Look here for some snippets from this training in Dutch, we have English options available.
by Esther Mollema
Many organizations suffer from poor leadership. And that is a problem because leaders make or break organizations and without good leaders no motivated and driven employees. Fortunately, the solution is closer than you might think, and for many improvement comes from an unexpected source.
Did you know that in America, the majority of employees who leave their organizations do so because of dissatisfaction with their direct supervisor? The same study by research agency Gallup, the State of the American Manager, also shows that 65% of employed Americans indicate that they would rather have a new manager than a salary increase. You may think that the situation may be very different in the Netherlands. But also in our own country we regularly see organizations at the HPO Center where employees have completely lost their motivation.
The reason for this is all too often ignored by their managers and they leave the real problem unexposed. As it turns out, many leaders are executives characterized by great self-confidence. And this is an important attribute which today is abundantly used to select for leadership positions. Unfortunately, these are not the better better leaders. And they also chase a lot of good talent out of the company. Where does it go wrong?
Wrong fixation on confident leaders.
In past times, we lived in groups and knew everyone in this community from cradle to grave. A new leader was chosen after everyone had been able to observe the behavior of this group member for years. Today, we often have to assess candidates during selection processes. And things often go wrong there. Organizational psychologist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic writes in his interesting book Why do so many incompetent men become Leaders (2019) that in selection procedures we use, often have a fixation on self-confidence in leaders. In addition to knowledge and skills, we mainly look at how confident someone appears. Where knowledge and know how are skills, self-confidence is believing in these skills. Unfortunately, there appears to be little overlap between actually being able and believing to being able.
Snakes in suits
Falling for confident people in leadership positions is not a good choice. And yet self-assurance has been a decisive factor in selections for decades. Do you recognize this: “came across as more convincing,” “I saw him do it,” “I think he can handle it well”? Then it is good to know that confidence in people easily turns into arrogance, and arrogance results in bad leaders. Once appointed, they dominate every meeting, only do work with which make them look good, profile themselves with gusto while not paying attention to their employees, not hearing and (thus) not motivating. You do not immediately see that, but after a while in the new position, arrogance no longer masks the incompetence. Leaders who display these characteristics are doing “well” in our business and the higher up the ladder, the more difficult their behavior is to recognize. An interesting fact in this context comes from the tube of Peter Wright, author of the book CEO Narcissism. Where approximately 2% of the world population can be classified as a narcissist or psychopath, leadership positions in organizations include an average of 5% narcissists and 4-20% psychopaths. There are quite a few, and they are also three times more men than women. That is partly the result of their upbringing: dominant or authoritarian behavior is completely suppressed in girls. Men are less corrected about these personality traits and arrogance is also a natural result of privilege. You have been warned.
Unconscious bias
We do know that good leadership is important for the development of the organization and all employees. And even better: we also know what “good leadership” looks like. A large Direction survey of 10,894 Dutch managers (male and female) shows that there is a great need for and appreciation for leaders who are pleasant, humble, friendly and empathetic. These inclusive leaders are currently all too often overlooked in selection procedures. They are ultimately the better leaders, also for your organization, but in practice they lose out to candidates who show great self-confidence. How is that possible? The main reason for this remarkable difference between what we need and select is our unconscious biases: mindbugs. We really have them all in large quantities, including you. These bugs ensure that you do not immediately estimate people with the same qualifications. Those are the same bugs that make us see taller people with lower voices ending up in leadership positions faster than those who are overweight, have a different ethnic background or are women, and certainly women with young children. Our brain makes connections without being asked. That is not unwillingness and poor comfort: we (really!) Do it all. But it is difficult. In this specific case, our brain unsolicited and unconsciously establishes a link between “leadership position” and “self-confidence”. And, it turns out, in 83% of cases also with “man”. Unconsciously, yet. In short: with all available recent scientific insights in 2020, leaders are still too often chosen on the basis of prejudice and gut, our ancestral and evolutionary roots. And we don’t select what we need.
Inclusive leaders for better results
So our unconscious bias predominates too often. “You won’t see it until you realize it,” Cruijff would say. But if you understand it and become aware of what is going on, it is important to exchange primal instinct for reason and knowledge. Because we know what we want. For both organization and employees we need more leaders of the type “pleasant, modest, friendly and empathetic”. Inclusive men and women who ensure satisfied employees who do not want to leave but want to contribute to the growth and prosperity of your organization. There are plenty of them; chances are they already work for you. It is important to see and appreciate them more. Normal men and women are too often overlooked. They are now almost punished for not being arrogant and not being overly self-assured. They are told to “show themselves a bit more”. And: among them there are relatively many women. One of the largest international studies conducted by Zenger & Folkman teaches that leading women around the world, from team leader to executive management, are better rated in 360 degree assessments for performing their leadership task compared to male leaders. This certainly does not mean that all female leaders are good. Just as among male leaders, there are lesser goddesses among women. It is fascinating in this context that 72% of the qualities that managers mention as the most important for their organization are precisely those qualities that female leaders apply more often. Here too, we do not choose what we need: we would like the qualities that female leaders apply more often, and yet women often are not successful in selections for leadership positions. Mindbugs.
Get to work
So science is teaching us to stop referring to self-confidence as a signal for competent leadership. And must stop systematically honoring this quality. Yes, it takes courage to say goodbye to bad leaders. On the other hand, firing one bad leader has four times more effect than hiring one good new leader. Give your employees the leader who inspires them to achieve better results. There is a lot of work to be done. It is necessary to correct the working of the brain when selecting new leaders. By good processes and by making agreements about process and criteria. By choosing that expertise and skills take the leading role. And realizing that current and historical performance is the best predictor of future performance and behavior. Guide people in selection processes to adhere to strict agreements and follow the same structure for all candidates in the process to reduce unconscious prejudices. Make it possible to discuss (again) within all selection and promotion rounds that great self-confidence often masks incompetence. In addition, use objective test methods to measure competencies where possible. Is this already a topic of discussion in your organization? It has to be different than you did and used to. And I promise you: with a different, better result. And, a nice bonus in 2020: if you choose better leaders, you automatically get more women in the top. For more background information also read: Unconscious Bias by Esther Mollema, 2020 and can be ordered via bol.com. If you want to keep following Esther Mollema’s blogs, check out www.esthermollema.nl and sign up for the newsletter.
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by Esther Mollema
Esther is the co-founder of the HPO Center (since 2008) that she runs together with André de Waal and Marco Schreurs & colleagues. She is a project manager for HPO diagnoses and a supervisor for HPO teams and results. “With great pleasure; HPO gives my customers and me the support to do difficult things anyway.”
High Performance research and advisory
The illuminating and acclaimed research of Dr André de Waal on how organisations get better and become HPO deserved its own centre. So in 2008, we founded HPO Center to do more research and bridge the gap between science and organisations. By now, the HPO Center is a renowned sparring partner for organisations that want a breakthrough in improving their performance. In the Netherlands and far beyond. André de Waal’s work is known worldwide and is applied in thousands of organisations.
Together with André de Waal and Marco Schreurs, Esther leads HPO Center and is involved in HPO research at many organisations. Based on the scientifically proven HPO philosophy, we constantly look for further improvements and share these insights with teams and organisations. Knowing that our clients may not like all of our findings, we do not hold back. A large part of the proceeds from our consultancy work is reinvested in new research to help bring organisations to their next level. We work with clients from the very beginning and with a growing group of new organisations.
HPO diagnoses
Esther conducts HPO diagnoses for clients and guides the leaders of those organisations in their HPO behaviour. “I find it exciting and very interesting work. I notice that we can really help organisations to collaborate better for a better result. And it is so much more fun to work in an organisation where everything makes sense rather than one that does not learn from its mistakes. I am really proud of our customers who keep improving.
My strength is to search for the priorities for an organisation after the HPO diagnosis has been made. And to include the organisation in setting their priorities to improve and help them organise their actions firmly and with great respect.
Interested in reading more about the HPO-Center? Refer to hpocenter.nl. Would you like to explore how your organisation can benefit from HPO Center? Contact Robert Smit, and we will schedule an appointment.
by Esther Mollema
The training Inclusive Recruitment is developed for HR and Recruiters, professionals that suffer more from bias than others. In a fun and practical workshop, Esther explains what causes this and how to organise the recruitment and selection processes in a way that bias does not stand a chance. So you can find and recruit the very best for the job.
This training aims to set up the recruitment and promotion processes in a neutral and transparent manner so that the effects of bias are mitigated, thereby increasing equal opportunities. This training facilitates both the discussion and the decisions regarding diversity and inclusion in your teams and organisation.
Every training Inclusive Recruitment has two parts:
1. Understanding unconscious bias in selections
- What is our reason for making recruitment & selection more neutral and transparent? Does everyone benefit from more diversity and inclusion? Brief overview behind the reasons for wanting more diversity and inclusion.
- How do unconscious biases affect the decisions we make in our recruitment processes? In this joyful part, participants undergo small experiments to experience bias in their brain. We use film and exercises. In this part, we also discuss the results of the Direction Mindbugs tests and why bias is such a big problem in the Netherlands – more significant than in many other countries. What is the effect of bias on the acceptance and flow of diversity?
2. Decisions to make regarding the recruitment process for neutral and transparent recruitment and promotion.
- How to prevent bias, and how to judge and decide more objectively? We look at the ten possible Equality by Design measures in the recruitment and selection process. In smaller groups, the participants discuss which actions would be appropriate for their organisation and which they will commit to. We will discuss what is needed to implement the actions during recruitment and selection processes. And we will discuss the role of the guardian of the appointments.
- We share nine easy ways to stimulate inclusion during selection procedures.
- We conclude with a summary of the agreements and the goals to be achieved.
“Esther’s training course at the Netherlands Institute for Neuroscience was followed by discussions for a long time. Esther managed to convince even the most rigid of scientists of the importance of inclusive recruiting. We often say to each other now: what would Esther recommend to us? A job well done!”
Dorien Bisselink HR Team leader, Netherlands Institute for Neuroscience (KNAW)
Of course, every in-house training is tailor-made and adapted to the seniority and knowledge of the target group.

Read the book ‘Inclusief Werven’ which Esther wrote with Jantien van Driel.